I am a non-talker! I think a lot. I mull things over. I organize. I can put on a brave front and tackle the world, be friendly, lead. But when life starts to bustle and I have too many appointments, or I have too many deadlines and the “to-do” list starts to hang over my head (even if it’s just my perception), I crave solitude. I get cranky. And I just need “space”! I am part of 33-50% of the population. I am an introvert!
We claim that we highly value individuality, and we’re certainly more accepting of our differences, but generally extroverts are more admired. Talkers are rated as being smarter and better-looking. They are considered more interesting because they appear bold and comfortable in the spotlight. Extroverts are energized by social interactions.
By definition, an extrovert is “an outgoing, overtly expressive person.”, while an introvert is “a shy, reticent, and typically self-centered person”. Even the recently revised Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders includes the fear of public speaking in its pathology. In other words, if am an introvert, I am a psychologically unsound and self-centered person who seeks restoration through introspective activity? That doesn’t seem right…
Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking wrote “there is zero correlation between the gift of the gab and good ideas”. Introverts are often noisy internally, and combined with noisy environments, they become distracted and overstimulated. Cain explains that “introverts work more slowly and deliberately…They like to focus deeply on one task at a time and often they have mighty powers of concentration”. Introverts are often creative and make good leaders because they are less likely to seek the spotlight for themselves. They are socially different, but not anti-social.