It wasn’t about the bath mat. In fact, it was never really about the bath mat. It was about wanting to “feather my nest” on a tight budget. It was about getting something new and pretty. It was about having warm toes on the floor after a hot shower…ok, it was mostly about the “nest”. Every now and then the desire takes over and I feel a “need” to make my home more than just a place to eat and sleep, and hang out on weekends.
So I bought a bath mat…on sale…in a colour that I thought would look good in our bathroom. Finding a colour that goes in our bathroom is a challenge because our bathroom was built in 1959…with salmon & sea foam green tiles. It’s “retro”, but not in a good way! I proudly laid out my new bath, (after rubbing my face on it a few times – I certainly wasn’t going to do that after tender tootsies had snuggled into it, no matter how clean they might be). Hubby was the first to point out that the pale blue mat did not match. Sadly, he was right (and putting that in print will haunt me), and rather than fight with him, I took it personally, removed the mat and gave it a new home in the basement (the place where things go to die). You have to pick your battles after all.
I truly believe that husbands and wives are meant to be partners, two individuals who honour and respect each other’s responsibilities and expertise. But at the risk of ending up in hot water, I’m going to make this statement: “home-making” tends to be the wife’s God-given domain for womanly authority. It is part of our responsibility, and our place of influence. It is our sanctuary, our domain, and a part of her security. I re-read Proverbs 31 (how often have I despised this woman’s boundless energy!). In addition to running a business and supporting her husband in his affairs, she also runs her household wisely. She “selects wool and flax and works with eager hands…in her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers…she makes coverings for her bed…she watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness”. A wise husband recognizes his wife’s abilities and frees her to decorate and make the house a home. “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value” (Prov. 31:11-12 NIV*).
I’m definitely not saying a wife’s place is in the home, or that she should she get everything her own way, but that we are all uniquely gifted – and we should respect that!
I bided my time (a few months)…I watched sales. And I got my bath mat – 50% off! It’s super thick and off-white (you can easily see Hubby’s black sock fluff). But it’s staying and I’m happy. It’s about more than a bath mat.